"If you answer “no”, walk away. No. RUN!”
Ask yourself these. When you are with him, do you crave to be a better person? If he is exactly the same person 20 years from now, would you still want to marry him? Does he treat you with respect? Can you have fun with him?
Here’s how to remember it: BSRF = Better Person, Same, Respect, Fun.
I see quickly that this four-question scenario works on any important relationship -- if the heart is involved. Maybe we all need to do an inventory on each of our relationships and analyze the results. It could be housecleaning time. If the relationship being analyzed is a marriage or children, maybe it’s time to take personal inventory.