I do have a solution. A solution that works each time I use it. It's this: Look at me. What am I doing that causes difficulties? What am I doing to make things worse? Could it be that I am trying to fix my problems by finding fault with others?
Here's how I tap into the solution. First, I pray and ask God for help. Second, I honestly examine my motives, actions and words. I write down on paper what I see, including the Good and the Bad. If I can't see myself clearly, I talk it over with a trusted friend or mentor. Third, I make myself practice tenderness, courtesy and a genuine interest in others. When I do this, miracles happen.